Carts and horses
I’m coming to the conclusion that Alt is not the best place to meet people.
Friends, sure – I’ve met some awesome people here and have been friends with them for years. I’ve found play partners and intimate relationships, but nothing that really sticks.
So I find myself wondering, as a budding friend said, if I too have been putting the cart before the horse. Sure – we all want BDSM compatibility, we yearn for it, and in many cases need it to complete us. Let’s face it, you could be six months into a ‘vanilla’ relationship before you even show your partner that door to the darker side of your soul. Isn’t it easier to just make it part of the criteria up-front?
I used to think so. I used to think – yes, BDSM compatibility first, then let’s hope there can be friendship and love. Now, I think it’s time to try the flip-side. To introduce BDSM to vanilla, rather than temper BDSM with vanilla.
To that end though, I think I may have gone overboard. I’m now on four different dating websites – match, chemistry, datingdna (for the iPhone fans), and OkCupid!
For those of you who may be in the same boat though – OkC seems to be the most kink friendly site out there. Their compatibility questions do venture into the realm of kink. Nothing like the Alt checklist, mind you… but it is there.
That’s where the journey is now… I’ll post here if anything develops and let you know how the grand experiment goes.
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